Life throws challenges at us in the most unexpected ways. As a woman, one of the biggest heartaches we would ever feel is the loss of a spouse or a loved one or a separation, or divorce. As much as we try to avoid these situations, there really isn’t much that we can do. No matter how much we try to work on having a loving relationship with our spouses or partners, there are some things that we really can’t control.

We can only control ourselves. We don’t have any control over other people’s feelings and actions, although there are ways where we can influence them into doing the same things we do. But the decision will still come from them alone.

I can totally relate how much pain you could be in right now if you are in the midst of one these life-changing moments. I have been separated and been a single mom for almost seven years. Even when there was no third party involved we still end up separated because of irreconcilable differences.

This has brought me to the conclusion that we were really not meant to grow old together. No matter how much we worked hard for the relationship, we still ended up going our separate ways. He has been married for almost 4 years and has 3 children. So really, we were not meant to be.

I was in denial for about 2 years before I finally accepted the fact that we would never be together. That moment of realization came when he brought his son along with him to visit my children. That was also the moment when I knew I had forgiven him.

So, fast forward to today, I am filled with high hopes that I would once again find love and lead a better life for me and my children. To be able to do this,  I am going to embark on another journey to reinventing myself. I want to reinvent myself to be the woman that I am, who I truly am, a feminine high-value woman, who is never afraid of facing some pitfalls and conquering life and love’s challenges.

If you are on the stage of moving on and you’re still unsure of how you will go about making these changes in your life, woman, you gotta reinvent yourself. There’s no other way to do it. We, women, are masters of reinvention.

Men, on the other hand, find it hard to reinvent themselves. According to Mike Robbins, author of Nothing Changes Unless You Do, said that “There’s a unique challenge that a lot of men face. Women are much more flexible and have an ability to adjust and evolve both in life and in business. Whereas, with men who’ve been successful on a certain track, haven’t had to do that quite as much. In a lot of cases, it’s forced upon them.  And if it happens later on in their careers or in life, it can be difficult to adjust.”

You as a woman has the power to reinvent yourself. Maybe you  just don’t know how and where to start, but once you do, you will be unstoppable at doing things to change your situation.

I’ve reinvented myself for God knows how many times. This is the guide that I use for reinventing myself more than twice.

How will you reinvent yourself?

Educate yourself.

Education is the best and most powerful way to reinvent yourself. This is empowering yourself at the highest level. What do you want to learn more about? Was there something that hindered you from taking that class, or that course that you’ve wanted to take for so long?

As for me, I will continue my Social Media Academy course, and also retake the Google Adwords Certification course. Another big thing that I wanted to take is to go back to school to finish my degree or take another degree. My friend has told me that instead of taking these short online courses that I have been paying for and not taking so much value, I should try to go back to regular college or University.

At some point, he made sense. If I start now, I would be getting my degree at the soonest possible time and won’t even notice it. Sounds like a good plan. I need to find a good program that would fit my situation.

Follow your passion.

What are you passionate about? What have you always wanted to do that you know that you are so passionate about it? It may not be the one thing that puts food on the table, but at least you get to do something that makes your heart sing and satisfies your soul.

How do you find what you are passionate about? I have written an ebook about how to unleash the passion you have. You can download it here.

I have always wanted to write a book. I started working on it last year but felt stuck at some point. This time I am keen on finishing what I have started. I have already written a lot of chapters, and I am setting a deadline to finish it before Christmas.

Learn to love again.

And by this, it also means learning to trust again. I know that this could be the most difficult thing for you to do especially if your separation involved cheating. I understand that even though that wasn’t the main reason for what happened to us.

Trust is a sacred thing for me. Once someone gained my trust, I give it fully. And I always give people the benefit of the doubt. But once that trust I have on someone is broken, it could never be regained.

Yes, I have trust issues. This is one of the hindrances that I have to finding love. I know that I need to learn how to open my heart once more. But before that happens, I need to work on my trust issues because I know that I would never be truly happy in a relationship when that big factor is missing.

No matter how much we hurt in the past, I choose to be open to love. This does not necessarily mean romantic love. Love is universal. But you know that once you are open your heart to loving others, it increases your chances of finding your true love and life partner. Again this is only applicable when you are ready and went through the stage of moving on.

Are you ready to open your heart again to love?

So there it is. Those are just some of the ways on how you reinvent yourself. Noticed that I did not mention anything about changing physical appearance? It is because reinvention is not changing your physical look or what people see you with their eyes, but it is more about changing the things that people see in you with their hearts.

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