The Quiet Notes
Self-care Without Shame
Self-care, self-care, self-care. We've seen this word everywhere, heard of it in so many places. But do we really understand what it is and why we need it? I think most of the time, women are the most vulnerable to self-care shame or guilt. Especially moms — we always...
Keeping the Faith When the Answer Is “Not Yet”
My blog prompt was telling me to write something thing about what to do when you get a “not yet” answer. It’s supposed to be how to deal with something that you’ve prayed for but somehow you get the feeling that God is saying to you, “not yet”. I got inspired, I...
The Words I Whisper When I’m Angry (My Ho’oponopono)
It’s been a long time since I wrote something that’s very personal to me. It’s because I’ve been hiding and avoiding things that I think would take away my peace. But I am human and I can’t erase emotions. There are some emotions we do want to feel always like...
I Thought I Was Fine. My Body Knew Otherwise.
I kept telling myself I was coping. My body had a different answer.
What Simplifying Really Meant for Me, and What It Could Mean for You
Every August, the world remembers to tell us to simplify. It has a whole week for it now, and I understand the appeal. There is real tenderness in any invitation to put things down. But I've come to be wary of the kind of simplifying that arrives with a shopping list....
What Nobody Tells You About Therapy When You’re the Strong One
I was the strong one. The helper. The last person anyone expected to need a therapist — including me.
A short letter: where these begin
Dear you, I don't know your name. But I think I might know your evening. The one where everyone finally sleeps, and the house goes quiet, and for the first time all day there's no one needing anything from you — and instead of resting, you just sit there in the dark...
The Day I Finally Said ‘I’m Not Okay’ Out Loud
The specific moment I stopped performing okayness — and what happened when I finally let the truth out.
When to Bring Your Child for Counseling
Bringing your child for counseling, is this necessary? There’s a part of parenting that no one really prepares you for. It's not the school stuff, not the schedules, and not even the usual “how to raise your kids well” kind of advice. I’m talking about the moments...
How I’m starting to live a life that’s mine
Lately, I’ve been noticing something that I don’t think I was ready to fully acknowledge before. My life is starting to open up in a way it hasn’t in years. My eldest just graduated from college, which still feels a bit unreal when I think about it, because I can...
What I’ve learned from raising my kids on my own
I didn’t grow up thinking this is how my life would look, and I think that’s something I still catch myself processing every now and then, especially on days when everything feels a little heavier than usual and I just want to pause and ask, “Wait… how did I end up...
It’s Okay to Need Help Sometimes..Really
Yesterday was… a lot. It started with me getting locked inside my own bedroom. The doorknob decided to give up on life and somehow locked itself. I couldn’t open it from the inside. It couldn’t be opened from the outside either. It had to be dismantled. Not...
I also write for women rebuilding on their own, at She Thrives Solo.
I also write for people wanting to get out of a toxic relationship, at Keep the Narc Away.
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