Many relationship coaches and self-help tips
talks about how women can really be more attractive to men is to be
more feminine. This is one thing that we, single mothers and even some
very successful women sometimes tend to forget. Being feminine.
I tried an experiment today to see if every
little thing that I learned from all those ‘how to be more attractive to
men’ or “how to attract men” tips are really true. So today, the club I
am involved in held its monthly meeting. Most of the members of this
club are men. That is why today is a good day to test this theory or
fact that most experts claim to attract men.
I wore something different than I normally
wear during meetings. But, I did not wear a skirt or a dress as it
would be too obvious that I am trying to attract something. I wore a
high-heeled open-toe shoe with jeggings. I guess the shoe helped a lot
to accentuate my feminine body features.
Wearing heels can limit my activity, so it
means that i will be needing help from anyone as opposed to wearing
comfy shoes, which makes me a super woman who can do just about
anything.
The first thing I noticed was that the men
were friendlier than usual. They smiled a lot when they talk to me.
Normally, they are like this all the time when they talk to me, because
I have something important to them, their funds. But today, they were
extra friendly with wider smiles.
One said smiling mischievously, “Hey, for
quite some time, I forgot that you were a woman.” I replied,” Yeah, me
too.” That send everyone laughing.
So yes, it really is true. Men are more attracted to “femininity”.
Being a single mom, I have to be more in
tune with my “masculinity” to be tough, and firm. I’ve earned for a
living ever since I was 16, and I guess, being in a very competitive
environment, I avoided being perceived as a weakling, or else, people
would get at me, abuse me and step on me. And that is why, I have
mastered to lessen my being feminine and be more masculine.
One thing I’ve learned though is that being
feminine is not a sign of weakness. Yes, it attracts men, not because
they think that being feminine is the weaker sex that they can
manipulate, abuse or use. I realized this now. Men are attracted to the
femininity just because it shows how we are different from them. They
like that we are soft on the inside, fragile and special. Men have that
natural instinct of being protective and they want to be needed. In
short, men are attracted more to women who needs them.
So, go on. Be your feminine self. Learn how
to switch from being masculine to feminine depending on what the
situation calls for. It won’t hurt to show a bit of vulnerability
sometimes. In fact, it can be attractive. You just might enjoy the
change. I know I did.
XoXo,
Anne
This post was originally published on August 3, 2013 in A Day in the Life of Anne blog.