Are you feeling tired most of the time? Do you feel like you’re starting to feel bored with whatever you’re doing now?


We all have those days when we feel like we are losing our own power. While it’s true that we never really lost it, as Angela Basset said in a video message on the Netflix Facebook Page, there are times that we feel like it’s just not there. We feel like it’s not working at all.


And this is due to many reasons. Stress, lack of sleep and just being misaligned with our own self are some of the reasons why we feel that we have lost our groove, or the zest that we have for life. And it is okay. Sometimes, the best thing to do when we are in this period is to be still and contemplate on the recent events that are happening in our lives. This is when you will see the root cause of it all.


But sometimes we don’t have the luxury of time. We need to have some quick perk-me-ups that should come in handy when these types of emergencies arise. I know that one of the most effective ways to get your groove back on is going to the salon. Ever heard of the saying that a woman changes her hairstyle when she wants to change her life? I guess it is true because I’ve done that a couple of times. You did that too at some point in your life, right?


I have listed a few things that are sure to help change your mood that you can do when you feel like you’re starting to lose your own power. These perk me ups has not let me down before, as far as I can remember, and they are effective.


So here are things that you can do to get your groove back.


  1. Meditate

If you have not meditated ever you are missing one of the most effective ways that helps you find your peace. I am not new to meditation, but I can honestly say that I can’t do it on my own. I still need guidance because my mind is always working and even when I am meditating, it doesn’t stop. The purpose of meditation is to be able to be still and be in touch with the divine being in you, to set intentions, or to just find that calmness that you can’t find in your environment.


So, if you haven’t tried meditation, you might want to try a guided meditation. There are a lot of guided meditations that you can find on YouTube. It is okay if you fall asleep on the first try. Meditation is not just a one-time thing. It is a lifestyle. The more you do it, the more your mind is trained to be still and focus on what you need to focus on.


If you want to bring your meditation practice to the next level, there are guided meditation groups or communities that you can join. You can check them out on Facebook or Google and search one in your area. I was able to join a meditation group here in Makati. They have guided meditation sessions on Thursdays usually after working hours. This is also a nice way of connecting with people who are in the same journey as you.


  1. Improve yourself.

There are many ways you can improve yourself and the most important one is education. By improving yourself, you do not just get your groove back, it opens up new things for you to groove on. You can study a new course, join workshops, or just listen to motivational or inspirational podcasts.


Another thing that you can do is to visit your salon or spa. A massage is one of the best gifts you can give your weary body. Pamper yourself. Feel like a queen, like Cleopatra if you will. You can bask in all the milk bath that you want and there’s no one saying no to you. I personally love a good hot stone massage or a whole body massage. Backrubs just have some calming effect on me.


Again, going back to the saying that a woman changes her hair when she wants to change her life is true. I don’t really know if there’s a scientific explanation for that, but I would say that changing your outer looks changes your perspective. When you look in the mirror, you see a new you.


  1. Get creative.

Do something creative to change your present condition. If you love to sing, dance or paint, now would be a good time to do it. Creativity is a feminine trait. The best thing to do when you feel like you are missing your groove is to align yourself with your femininity. Check out my previous post on how to get back into your femininity.


Creativity of any form is a perk me up. I used to paint and draw when I was still in high school but unfortunately, I didn’t pursue that part of creativity in me. When I started my online career, I poured out my creativity to writing content, poems (a hobby), creating websites and playing with Canva.


If you want to try painting but don’t know where to start, Bob Ross is still the go-to guy. You can check him out on Youtube and there are many video tutorials that you can follow to create your very own first masterpiece. However it turns out, make sure to hang it up on your wall, a reminder of the once-upon-a-time Bob Ross’ moment.


Immersing yourself in arts and crafts is also a great way to get your groove back. There are many types of arts and crafts that you might want to explore such as sewing, macramé, knitting and crocheting, bead-making, candle making, etc.


Sing your heart out! But then of course, you need to find the songs that perks you up not send you into a depressive mode. You know your type of music, but if most of it fell into the category of sad love songs, you may want to avoid those first. Go for more positive and uplifting songs.


Music is the language of our soul. It heals our soul. Singing, in particular, can do more than just listening to music because it comes directly from inside of us. It is an expression of what our soul wants to be heard.


It doesn’t matter if you can’t carry a tune. Once in a while, stop caring about what others think, remember they are just listening, you are giving them the honor of listening to a musical diva like you.


  1. Travel

This is one of the best ways I know that can really get you back on your toes. You don’t need to travel overseas. It could be just going somewhere that you’ve never been before in your area. Visit a museum, connect with culture and the arts. If you have the budget, going to the beach or somewhere exotic can be the best thing you can do for yourself.


Travel alone if you must, but if you are concerned about your safety, travel with a companion that won’t hinder you from enjoying yourself.


A book that I’ve found to be entertaining is How Stella Got Her Groove Back. There was a movie made from the book and it starred none other than my favorite Angela Basset. How she got her groove back? She found her self-worth, and realized that she was still desirable with younger men.


The bottomline is you do the things that you already love and find the time to fall in love with it again. An available ex can come in handy if you wish.


You can check out Skyscanner for affordable airfare.


  1. Get fit.

Exercise is another way of getting your groove back on. Exercise does not only do good things for your physique but also for your mental health. When we exercise, our brain releases hormones that make us feel good. It lowers down our stress-levels. If you have the budget, you can go enroll in a fitness program in your local gym. You can take a sport, hire a coach and just be good with it. Maybe even strive to join a tournament to challenge yourself.


But if you are someone like me, who doesn’t have the luxury of time, and really I am an introvert, Youtube again is my rescue. I do yoga and Yoga with Adrienne is a good way to start. She has a lot of yoga practices from basic to specialized yoga for runners, or just focusing on a certain part of your body.


If you think yoga is easy and won’t let you break a sweat, you are mistaken. I was surprised! Yoga stretches and moves every inch of your body. It helps a lot in your focus too. So if you feel like you are out of alignment with yourself, yoga can help you get back into that alignment.


So again, these are just some of the few things that you can do when you feel like you are losing your power. Remember that while most of this list is focused on the physical aspects, it is also important to do things that take care of your mental health.

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